7 things teachers want you to know before the first day of preschool

The first day of preschool is a big deal — whether it’s your child’s very first drop-off or they’re returning after summer break. There are new routines in a new environment, big feelings to navigate, and plenty of “what ifs” for both the children and the adults.

We asked early childhood educators for their input, and while every child is different, there are a few things that they want every parent to know before that first-day-of-school outfit is on, the backpack is zipped, the classroom door swings open and the school year officially begins.

Here’s what they would want you to know.

How to best prepare my toddler for their first day of preschool?

1. A little prep goes a long way

In the weeks before school starts, spend a little time helping your child get familiar with the idea of preschool. Read stories about starting school or packing their backpack, walk or drive by the building, and talk about what their day might look like — from circle time to outdoor time. Practice saying goodbye, and let them try out their backpack or lunchbox. These little moments can help build confidence and excitement.

2. Label everything

We mean it. Every water bottle, sweater, hat, blanket, stuffed animal. If it leaves your house, put a name on it. Classrooms are organized chaos, and labeling your child’s belongings helps us keep track of their things (and saves you from the lost-and-found pile).

3. The first few weeks are a big transition for everyone

Tears, clinging, tantrums, refusal to get dressed, sudden potty accidents — it’s all normal, and part of adjusting to a new rhythm and space. Your child is learning how to trust new adults, be part of a larger group, feel a sense of belonging to a new space, and manage their feelings. Be patient — with them, and with yourself.

4. Please don’t sneak out…and please don’t stick around

Talking about big transitions, let’s talk about goodbyes. We know they can be tough, especially on the first day. You might think slipping away while your child is distracted will save them (and you) some tears. But in the long run, it makes it harder. When you say goodbye clearly and confidently every time, it builds trust. Your child learns that even when you leave, you always come back.

That said, once you’ve said goodbye, it’s time to go. We know it’s tempting to linger by the window or sneak a peek to see how they’re doing. But if they spot you, it often means the goodbye has to happen all over again. It can also make them feel unsure, wondering when or if you’ll pop back in. The best thing you can do is trust the process and let them settle in with us.

And most importantly, we promise that even if there are tears, we’ve got them. Really.

5. We want the same thing you do

And on the topic of letting them settle in with us, remember that we are on your team, working towards the same goal. We’re not just here to “watch” your child. We’re building a space where they can feel safe, brave, curious, and loved. We care deeply about helping them grow — not just academically, but socially and emotionally too. We want their days to be magical. And we want you to feel good knowing they’re in good hands.

6. There’s no race to “ready”

We know it’s tempting to compare your child with other children. When will your child write their name, recite the alphabet, or count to ten. But here’s the truth: development is a walk in the woods, not a race on the highway. Some children will take off running, and others will stop to examine every leaf. Both are exactly where they need to be.

We’re here to support their pace, their path, and their passions. No one gets left behind—but we also don’t push children toward arbitrary milestones. And if we ever have a concern about their progress, we promise to bring you into the conversation with care, clarity, and a plan forward, always as partners.

7. Keep us in the loop

We don’t need your whole life story, but we do appreciate a heads-up if something’s going on at home. Send us a quick message to let us know about changes like potty training, new siblings, sleep struggles, grandparents visiting for the weekend — even what seems like a small change to you affects a child’s day, behavior and mood. When we know what’s happening, we can meet your child with even more empathy and care.

Oh, and one last thing…

We’re your teammates in this new season of your child’s life. If something feels off or you have a question, please reach out. We’re here to support the children and the adults, and we’re so excited to get started!